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Hank is 25 years old. He
works as a welder and is married with two kids. Recently, the boss has
been telling Hank that he is not working up to his potential. His wife
has been telling him that he seems down in the dumps and wants him to
snap out of it. Hank does feel that something is wrong with him, but
he can't put his finger on it. He goes to a counselor to get help.
Counselor: Tell me
about your life growing up.
Hank: My family was
very tense. It was like everyone was always waiting for a disaster to
strike. Everyone was nervous. No one took a chance on the unknown. My
father never changed jobs. He worked his whole life as a grocery store
manager. He was actually a pretty boring person...no friends whatsoever.
Anyway, if I took the car out, which I rarely did, and I was more than
ten minutes late, you can be sure that my mother had already called
the hospital to see if I had been picked up dead by the side of the
My mom was a serious person
who, now that I look back on it, must have been lonely. She actually
spent her whole life cleaning and organizing our house. Geez...I remember
when I was really little, I wasn't allowed to leave out any toys. Right
after I would finish playing with a toy, I would have to put it away.
Things were really tense with her. No smiles, no laughter, nothing.
No one ever wanted to come over to our house.
Right when I was 18, I moved
out to live with a family I knew through church. I think they had felt
sorry for me. I got a job through a friend of theirs, as a matter of
fact, it's where I am working now. I got married to Becky at 19 and
here I am six years later, married to a beautiful wife, with two healthy
kids and a good job. I should be happy, but I am really on edge. I don't
know why you want me to talk about the past. All I know is that I need
help right now.
1. How would you describe
2. What would you have done
differently if you were Hank's parents?
3. How can the past affect
a person's life?
4. What would you do if you
5. What would you do if you
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